Saturday, January 28, 2017

#Relations. How technology killed the love – Express

In one of the scenes from the movie "A Brilliant Mind", the mathematician John Nash (played by Russell Crowe) is at the bar with four colleagues when they come in five young women. The balance is perfect. The problem? They all want the same girl, a captivating blonde with the green eyes. The friends of Nash cite Adam Smith, the father of modern Economics. "In competition, individual ambitions serve the common good." Nash is hesitant, does not seem convinced. "Adam Smith must be revised. If we are all behind the blonde, we will block us, none of us will be able to conquer it. After, we will have with her friends and they will turn around-in the back, because no one likes to be a second option." The mathematician proposes another approach. "But if no one if you do the blonde? Not in the atropelamos and we do not insult the other women. It is the only way for us to win. It is the only way we all have sex." The theory of Adam Smith was incomplete. "The best outcome for the group occurs when each party does what is best for you. And to the group," he explains.

The "Balance Nash" was formulated in the 50′s of the last century, and earned him a Nobel prize in Economics, but it would be necessary to revise the theory in order to apply it to relationships of today. Much the fault of social networks, we’ve never had so many opportunities to be happy: the woman who always admirámos is at the distance of a message on Facebook, love can be born a ‘match’ on Tinder, the trailer has invaded up to Linkedin, a network of professional contacts… The possibilities are proliferating as never and, however, simply speak with single people to realize that there it was not easy to find who if you are looking for.

with so much abundance of choices, we block. We have become more demanding, more undecided, more frustrated, always looking for something better. And also more impatient: we ship someone evil comes the grit in the gear, with the same ease with which we close a window on Facebook and opened another. "Hello, what are you doing this evening?" Some, more daring, you may wear the skin of the Henry Chinaski of the "Women" Bukowski: "Bora fuck?"

The psychologist Barry Schwartz called "the paradox of choice’: that freedom of choice does not make us more free or more happy, before increases our dissatisfaction. Always eager to find something better, we become experts in the inability to take our decisions. Give steps in front. Of risk. Almost need an Excel spreadsheet to remind us of the data of all the people that we met on Tinder or Facebook, but rarely seek to truly know someone.

This paradox is not only in love. How to explain that, in an era in which the sex is as accessible as a burger from Mcdonald’s, young adults engage in less than the generations that preceded them, as they point to various studies? We are so busy accumulating ‘matches’ on Tinder, or to jump from the window in the window on Facebook, or share photos and videos with dot red on WhatsApp, that we forget that there is a world out there. We have so many opportunities to be happy, for a night or for a life, and boicotamo us. We do not learn anything with Nash.

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